We can look at our personality as a system of different

sub-personalities or parts of self (Internal Family Systems Model). These parts seem to have their own needs, beliefs, feelings, motivations, impulses, and desires. They might be hurt, traumatized, shamed, forgotten, feel angry or unloved and develop survival strategies how to deal with life. Behind these strategies there is usually some kind of trauma or pain that often originated early in life when we didn't get our needs met or were harmed or overwhelmed. Very often these parts of us unconsciously control our lives as deeply ingrained behaviour patterns.


Often we might try to get rid of these parts of ourselves or dislike them or find other ways to exclude them. This causes fragmentation and splitting. Often by blocking the pain these parts might carry, we block our connection to our own life energy. We become disconnected from ourselves and from life.


I work with parts in Constellations with groups and in individual sessions using sand tray and figurines, color mats or other objects. This visual and experiential method is an excellent tool to work with parts of self. Our aim is to bring awareness to these parts and instead of letting them unconsciously dominate our lives, to give them expression, understand their needs, care for them, regulate them, and integrate them. As we integrate parts of ourselves, we become whole.​



Constellations with the parts of self 

The Inner Journey

Marcela Urban